Sex Lubes And Choosing The Right Lubricant For The Job

There are many benefits using lubricants and when used correctly, there is absolutely no down side to it. Lubricants and potions not only increase your sensitivity during lovemaking and erotic play, but they are essential with sex toys and also adds a boost to safe sex.


Condoms are already lubricated from the factory and some contain Nonoxynol 9, a spermicide which kills any leaked sperm. However, the main reason condoms break is still due to lack of lubrication. A broken condom in non-monogamous sex adds risk of HIV infections. Studies have also indicated that certain lubricants destroy the HIV virus, thus lowering the risk of infections. Lubricants and spermicides are not effective when used by themselves, but they are used for increased effectiveness with condoms. Due to the importance of this, let me repeat it again that condoms should always be used as protection against pregnancy or infections. Lubricants and spremicides are used for increased effectiveness and should not be used on its own. Also note that not all lubricants kills HIV or sperm and studies are still ongoing to the effectiveness of lubricants to destroy the HIV virus.

To easily differentiate whether a product contains Nonoxynol-9, the guideline is to check whether it is spermicidal or not. Spermicidal products generally contain Nonoxynol-9. Read the facts about Nonoxynol-9 and the implications to HIV infection.

Lubrication is essential for use with sex toys or during anal play. Differing from the vagina, the anus does not produce any natural lubrication. Care must also be exercised with vibrators to prevent any unwanted burns or sores. Sometimes you may not notice the sores during use but notice them only afterwards. Ever had sunburn before? Then you know the burning sensation comes in only later on. Always lube up when using sex toys. There’s no such thing as too much lube. The more the better and lubricants are generally inexpensive.

Types of Sex Lubes

Lubricants or massage potions come in three main varieties. Water based, silicone based and petroleum based. They vary in viscosity, lasting power and some are edible and flavored.

Water Based

Water based lubricants are the thinnest and very much like the natural vaginal fluids. They are the safest to use for all applications, with sex toys, condoms or just for lubrication. Many varieties are flavored and edible. Viscosity varies but they may not be heavy duty enough for anal play. Water based lubes are KY Jelly, AstroGlide, Clinigel. Get your free sample of AstroGlide here.

Silicone Based

Condoms are factory lubricated with silicone based lubes. Silicone lubes are waterproof, lasts longer and very slippery. It is safe to use with latex or rubber and is the ideal lube for anal sex or whenever lasting power is desired. Avoid use with silicone based toys as they can dissolve the silicone in your toy. Otherwise slip a condom over your toy. Silicone is waterproof, so they don’t wash out as easy. Soap and water is required to clean it up. Wet Platinum is an example of a silicone lube. For anal sex, Anal Eze is a desensitizing lube which makes it easier for anal penetration.

Petroleum Based

Petroleum based lubricants are more like massage oils for external use only. These include baby oil, Vaseline and other lotions used on the skin. These are not meant for internal use and can cause infections if left inside the body, so don’t use them as lubricants for sex toys. Petroleum based also breaks down latex, so avoid contact with latex condoms or any latex sex toys. These are best used for sensuous body massage only.

Check out our other article on vibrators that can go with these lubes.